"I promised my partner forever. I didn't add any subsets to that. I said until death do us part. While yes, leaving is a big thing to hold over someone's head, it's just a threat. And it might end up being one of those "this hurts me more then it hurts you" threats. I'm not a fan of those. So, instead, no matter how bad he screws up or I screw up, we both know we have to make this work. Neither of us like the idea of being married to an asshole so, we have to talk things out. Completely. It helps because we can't threaten the "I'll leave if you don't do x". Instead we say things like "I swear to all that is holy if you don't stop doing x, I will wake you up every morning by punching you in the face." (Jk. I've never said that.) It makes us better communicators and I don't have to worry about making a liar out of myself because I wouldn't leave him."
And, just for posterity, if I ever get married (read: if anyone can ever tolerate me and if love does actually exist), I want to do it like this:
I fully approve of this message. That is definitely something I would want to do if I ever find someone silly enough to marry me. Did you see the video of their mock divorce? It's pretty much the same thing, but in a courtroom.
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